What is it with this age old notion that girls have. The wanting to be the girl that that unruly, untamed man will change for. The one that is so irrisistable and says what he wants, but you stick by him, and still adore him. All the while waiting for that moment when it falls into place and his changes his ways.
Why does every girl want to be the girl that changes THAT guy? One could argue that surely its better to find someone who you click with for who they are, and one could also say that you should never try and make someone something their not. But its not about that is it? Its not you wanting to CHANGE someone to suit you, its that love you have for them, the idea that the dream life you could have with them is in such close reach if only they would just change some of their ways.
I have a guy like that in my life. I dont think i can get him out of it. I care so much, and all i do is seek reassurance from him that he cares about me, im like a flower to the light for it. Hes my boyfriend of a fortnight. Sometimes i think he cares, sometimes i worry that all he wants is sex. He tells me he cares, but then he has a day where he just doesnt show it. I adore so many things about him, and is it so much to ask that he doesnt treat me like one of his buddies? That im his girlfriend and a little care and affection (other than sex) wouldnt go amiss. Its not that he doesnt kiss and cuddle. But i guess im a girlie girl who loves to get a random text or phone call letting me know im missed. I really do seek for that jackpot feeling, not the mediocre "yeah we're in a relationship" feeling.
I guess il carry on seeking validation.
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